Postnatal depression has been an uphill struggle for me after the birth of Marly-Kate.
It played havoc with my life and caused many problems.
With the stress and worry of her health, the early signs were not picked up and sadly it became a little to late, to nip it in the butt before it hit with force.
I heard today that my sister has just been diagnosed with postnatal depression, I feel for her so much, she is lucky though that they have caught in early before she screwed her life up altogether.
The sad thing is, we didn’t even pick up on it, even though she was being a total pain in the ass and to be honest a real nasty cow. ( sorry faith but you know it as well as we do)
I’m ashamed that it took, a dear friend of mine, to point it out to me, that maybe the way she was behaving could be down to postnatal depression.
In turn I had a chat to my dad and now she is getting the help she needs.
Hopefully in time, with love, support and the right care, she won’t let it beat her.
So what is postnatal depression?
Postnatal depression (PND) is sometimes confused with the baby blues.
The baby blues are when you feel moody, weepy, tired or anxious during the first week after giving birth. These feelings will usually pass within a few days.
However postnatal depression, is an illness that is unlikely to get better quickly, and without help. The sooner you recognise that you have postnatal depression the sooner you can get help and won’t fall down the long deadly path I fall into after having Marly-Kate.
Postnatal depression is very common. About one in eight mums in the UK alone seek help from their GP for it, and im sure many new mums don’t even admit they have it and struggle alone.
So what are the signs?
sad or low
unable to enjoy anything
extremely tired, with no energy
a sense of guilt
lacking in appetite
Manly all the normal signs of depression. The main problem here being that you have a new baby to look after and you should be on top form, you have your beautiful baby to look after, so nipping this in the butt is so very important.
It is not only the new mum’s that can be hit hard with it, new dads can to.
So if your partner/husband seems a little down, talk to him.
Speech is a powerful tool and a key to any relationship, be it in love or friendship.
Sometimes you know others better than they know themselves and you will pick up the signs before them.
If this is the case, talk, talk to them, a few simple words could make a world of difference.
And don’t judge, I know that one is hard to do, because yes we should be all high as a kite after birth, which of course all new mums and dads are.
This illness can not be helped, it’s not that they don’t love their baby, it really has nothing to do with that.
So please don’t judge new mums who fall into depression, it really can’t be helped. But you can help, you can stand by and offer a hand of support, let her or him rest as much as possible and just be there for when they cry or want to open up.
Love respect and care is mainly all they will need.
Please also get yourself or your partner to see a doctor.
They can offer help, and no not in the aid of pills, they will try other methods first.
Postnatal depression can be beat, I know, I’ve been there.
( God, that was one hard blog to write, but if it helps at least one person, it has to be worth the pain)