I don’t know if this is true for other people, but it seems to me that a large bulk of what society tries to teach us is that ultimately, you have to worry about one person, yourself. You’ve got to look out for the one who actually matters, right?
I think this is true, but in a different context. I believe that most people view this in a context that says,
“You don’t have to care about other people. If you are in a position to gain, don’t worry about what happens to the other guy.”
To be more clear, it’s as though we are supposed to view ourselves as an individual fish in the sea, and no matter what, you should aim for the top. But watch out, because once you beat the sea, you’ve got to worry about the ocean. You’ve got to look the best, have the best, and be the best. But in viewing life like this, how many people actually feel the best? Don’t we even look down on feeling bad or depressed because we associate it with weakness? Isn’t that why we hide our tears, forget our pasts, and keep our demons to ourselves instead of doing the practical thing by asking for help?
If you follow the norm and do what everybody else does, life can be very stressful.
The TV and media shoot us with constant advertisements in their attempt to have us buy their products.
New clothes, New phone, better shoes, better body, better clothes for your better body. That sort of thing. We start hearing these things from the moment we get a TV (or through some other medium), which is usually a pretty young age for most people, and unless you have parents to guide you otherwise, kids actually start to believe that what they have materialistically defines their self worth.
I remember seeing a commercial about a drink that had a guy walking around his neighborhood looking cool and hip, being showered by women and a bunch of other yadda yadda. At the end, the man practically said, “If you drink this, you can be like me!” As though it would bring him happiness. Sure, it does bring satisfaction and pleasure, but that quickly runs dry. Once it does, you have to find another stimulant to bring back the good feeling. Don’t we all do that?
Like when you play a video game and get that game high, or when you have a crush and you get that crush high, or the various other highs people fill themselves with. Food, friends, dates, TV, porn, whatever they use to gain that short stimulation.
We are a stimulated society, one that is drowning short term pleasure and gain.
Though it may simply be my own personal opinion, I must say that we are not simply fish swimming in the sea. Yes, we are individuals, but we are also siblings. We are sons, daughters, brothers, mothers, fathers, uncles, etc. Whether we like it or not, what we do affect far more than just ourselves.
Every action, every word, every thought, makes an impact on the people around us.
We are always racing to be on the top of the social hierarchy when what we really need and want are each other’s love. When you get into a position to help someone, go ahead and do it, for you never know when you may be in the same position of need. Instead of constantly trying to attain more materialistic objects to make yourself look good in front of other people, just stop giving a damn about what others think.
It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of you so long as you know who you are and what kind of person you strive to become (but you have to actually work on becoming it). We all have our own faults and weaknesses, regrets and shame. It does nothing but waste time by hiding them in ourselves and trying to forget about it. If something happened, acknowledged it.
If you feel that a situation is too difficult for you to handle, get help, because there are people who are willing help.
The majority of whats on the media is just a bunch of bull that they try to shove down your throat and say,
“This is what matters”.
Most news stations and other places of critical opinion attempt to have you buy into their beliefs so that you can spread it to others. I think it would be doing yourself a favor by simply forming your own opinion. Your own thoughts. To sit down and take the time to sincerely ask yourself,
“What do I believe?”
This goes for friends to, they are all to fast in telling you how you should live or feel. But as I always say, stay true to your heart.