Before I became a adult, I didn’t have a lot of worry about the future. In fact, I didn’t think much of it at all (besides a few things). But later, I began to ponder on what I’d do after I got older. I didn’t have a clue.
I feel like this sort of thing happens to most people. We want to do something, but don’t have the courage to do it. And this isn’t just about choosing what you want to do with your life (although that is a big part). Whenever we do something wrong, we feel guilty and ashamed of it and end up telling no one about it because we are afraid of what they’ll think of us. Or even when it comes to expressing our beliefs, we many times let fear take over and end up blending in with the crowd of society.
In a friendship, if you only talk about superficial things than, in a sense, your friendship is very superficial, and the only reason you don’t talk about deeper topics is because you’re afraid of how others will look at you (of course, if you can’t even share you beliefs without getting flack, I doubt those people to be actual friends). Even when it comes to solving our own personal issues, we tend to avoid the darker parts of our mind.
Whether it be with your friends, your family, or yourself, fear is there. I think it’s interesting how our worries can convince us of a bad outcome before we’ve even given ourselves, or others, a try. It’s better to go ahead and give it a shot. If it doesn’t turn out well, then at least you learned how to do better. The only real failures are those who tried to do nothing, and succeed. The people who were more worried about what might happen, than what was happening. When you think about it, the type of fear I’m speaking of is worry. And worry is what really stops us from doing anything. What prompts us into making issues out of thin air. So really, if we want to get rid of our useless fears, all we have to do is stop worrying.
Is There A Difference Between Worry, and Concern
Believe me, there is an actual difference between the two. Worry often has no real foundation to be there. For example, if you worry about what others think of you than you aren’t getting anything done. What they think of you doesn’t actually affect you. Concern would be when you’re concerned about what you think of yourself, because this is something that actually matters. Am I a good person? Are my thoughts wrong? How can I fix this? These types of things.
I don’t think worrying is a good because it is based off of things which you have no control over. You can’t read the mind of anyone and you can’t change what has already happened. You can, however, decide whats going to happen next.