Love and hate.

imageAs I’m struggling today not to let my feelings towards my aunt turn to hate, I came across this and wanted to share it with you.
(God I wish I could write like this)

If one thrives on hatred, should they set their mind to it, one could live perhaps the most content life of all. There is so much hate in the world, and it is so available that one could just reach out, as if into thin air, and grasp a bundle of hate and eat it. There is a lot of love as well, sure, but most of the time, it’s not so easy to just reach out and grab – and for that reason people tend to lean towards hate. They tend not to stretch their tired arm so far, not to rise from their comfortable seated position, not even to think twice about it. They just settle for hate. To get to love, one must pass hate. Most people, in their weak and sedated state, just stop at hate. It’s closer.

Hate is comfortable:

Hate can be comfortable for the hater but painful for the hated. Love can be painful for the lover and comfortable for the loved. It’s our charge as selfish humans to enjoy hate and ignore love. To focus on our comfort and other’s pain. Our own discomfort is far worse a thing then someone else’s pain simply because of who owns what. Perception is reality especially in hate. Love can scare us. It can rock our thoughts and rattle our emotions. Hate gives us the illusion of control because we think we understand it. Love confuses us, though it’s one of nature’s base values. There was love before there was hate. But hate has reigned longer than love.

Hate is what we know:

As our world’s history is so riddled with hateful people and hateful acts we seem used to it, and when those hateful people act out against other hateful people, and all the hate starts to fly back and forth, it feels as if it is right, as if it is normal. Hate is our status quo. Hate is harvested. Hate is given away for free. Love is cherished and often kept close to one’s chest. Love is something we are told we have to work hard to find and work harder to keep. History books are filled with hateful battles, quarrels, arguments, fits and spats instigated and fought by hateful kings, soldiers, warriors, conquerors, armies and militias. We are taught hate as kids. We are given the option to find love as adults. Love requires compassion. Hate requires only ego. We are born with ego, but we must learn compassion.

Hate grows, love shrinks:

The world is getting worse. Hateful people breed hateful people. Loving people breed loving people and hateful people. Love grows within the lover but shrinks within the world. Hate grows within the hater and grows within the world. Modern man is controlled by the masses. Modern man is comforted by large groups who think the same as him. Love is more powerful than hate. But love is outnumbered by hate. When the masses hate, the masses grow. Love is born in the universe and grows into the man. Hate is born in the man and grows out into the universe.

Hate doesn’t stand a chance:

Haters are more passive than active. Lovers are more active than passive. Love is worth dying for. Hate is not. The small armies of love will march longer and further than the massive armies of hate. The world’s lovers are aware of the world’s haters. The world’s haters are unaware of the world’s lovers. Lovers spread love. Haters spread hate. But, lovers spread actively while haters spread passively. Love is right. Hate is wrong. Basic principles in this world are upheld by physics. Yes, the dusk of hate is dark and long, but the dawn of love is brighter and longer. A hater’s hate is no match for a lover’s love. For even in death a lover’s love lives on when the hater’s hate turns to ash.

If you’re seeking…..

imageTrue strength of character is not how you treat someone because of how they treated you, but how you treat someone regardless of how they treated you!
Events try to dictate our circumstance.
Each morning you wake up and have a choice. In the end the decision is ours.
I choice to let justice take control, and watch as karma catches up with certain people.
For I have no reason to hold my head in shame. The wrongs will be put to right.
But I will not hold a grudge and I will always see you as family and hold the memories of my childhood, my teens and my time in Paris as memories and lessons learnt.
I hope justice isn’t to hard on you (why I do not know, for you deserve what ever is coming your way) I guess I’m just too soft and don’t want to see another suffer as I have, there has been enough pain and heartbreak as there is.
I won’t hold hate in my heart because I know somewhere in your heart there is love and goodness, I just hope you learn to find it.

It takes a strong heart to love, but it takes an even stronger heart to forgive, so my words to you in the next couple of weeks are …….

Strength does not come from some mystical or mysterious place because we need it. Strength is born from the courage to do what must be done.
I hope that you have the strength to stand there and see, really see, the damage you both caused, and find the strength to live with that for the rest of your life’s.
To me, justice will only be served when you feel the devastation that you caused.

No court room, no sentence, no lawyer can give justice
If you’re seeking justice, a court of law is the absolute LAST place you should look, you will find it only in your heart.