A little note of wisdom

A little note of wisdom to myself.
When your fears and anxieties have you looking too deep into things, it creates problems.. it doesn’t fix them.
If you think and you think and you think, you will think yourself right out of happiness a thousand times over, and never once into it.
Worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace and potential. And life is too short for that.
It’s always possible to go on, no matter how impossible it seems.
In time, the grief..the lessons.. may not go away completely, they never will because the love is too strong, but after a while it’s not so overwhelming. So breathe… You’re going to be OK. Remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been this uncomfortable and restless and afraid, and you’ve survived.
Take another breath and know that you can survive this time too. These feelings can’t break you. They’re painful and draining, but you can sit with them and eventually, they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon they’re going to fade, and when they do you’ll look back at this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience.

Remember the person you were meant to be

When times get tough, our worst battle is often between what we remember and what we presently feel. One of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make is when to stay put and struggle harder or when to take your memories and move on. Sometimes you have to step outside of the person you’ve been, and remember the person you were meant to be, the person you are capable of being, and the person you truly are today.
When you stay stuck in regret of the life you think you should have had, you end up missing the beauty of what you do have.
Not all the puzzle pieces of life will seem to fit together at first, but in time you’ll realize they do, perfectly.

More than numbers

imageWe can all boast about how many Facebook friends or Twitter followers we have.
It seems that today’s generation have no sense of the meaning of true friendship, instead all they focus on is numbers.
To them, numbers matter, the higher the number the bigger the boost of self-confidence and the larger their egos grow.

But truly how many would come running when you really need them ?
How many could you trust with your secrets?

Some people need an immediate reality check.
‘True’ friendships are marked out by who really cares, and not the number of friends we have on social media.
Are we not already just numbers by far too many, be it doctors, companies etc etc.

It really is a sad state of affairs when you lose touch with reality and no longer know that true friendship is about face to face communication, seeing facial expressions, hearing tones of voices and truly caring how your friend is feeling.

I for one, do not want to be a number.

To me…….

imageSpring is showing it’s beautiful face and Sun is up with all the colours and the smells for us to live and enjoy..!
To me, Three things in human life are important.
The first is to be kind..
The second is to be kind..
and the third is… you guessed it… to be kind.

Whatever can be done, can be done more effectively when you add kindness. Whatever words are spoken, will always be more compelling when expressed with kindness.
The kind deeds you exert in just one moment can have a positive impact that lasts a lifetime.

Your days will be brighter and your years fuller when you add kindness to your purpose. Choose to be kind every day, and you’re truly choosing to live in a world with less stress and more happiness.

Smile and the journey has just begun..!!!

Perfected their weapons.

imageThe feeling you get when your partner be it your husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, not only scares you but when he/she hurts you for that very first time.
No other fear is like it,
It doesn’t ever stop !!!
You never become less scared only more.
You want to give them the benefit of the dealt so you forgive and try to forget, you don’t want to believe they are capable of laying their hands on you.
You tell yourself, it’s you not them, you’re the one at fault for not loving them enough, not being worthy, not carrying out your jobs properly.

But you don’t or won’t let yourself believe that they raised their hand to you, that they made you feel weak and scared, so scared that you know you should turn away from them with your finger in the air.
But you don’t !!!
You just blame yourself instead. They scare every inch of self-worth out of you and you truly believe, you are to blame.
They make you believe.

Once they feel that power in them, it will never leave. It will only grow.
Be it a slap, a punch, grabbing you and holding you with force, it will only grow with time.
It’s like part off them is rooting inside, forming a different being which slowly takes over.
They have the power

Your this tiny soul who is scared of their own shadow as they slowly but surely grow with the power they hold over you.
Like the monster under your bed, when you give them the power by feeding them with your fear, they make you shake in your shoes, they make the dark darker, the air you breathe thicker, the light in your soul, fade faster than anything or anyone has ever done.
Fear eats slowly away at you.

Please have faith to believe that the first time won’t be the last, no matter how sorry they say they are, no matter how they try to make amends, the control the power has been felt and they will want more.
It won’t stop, it will never stop until you find your inner strength and run as fast as you can in the opposite direction.

DO NOT let the hidden monster win, they will never change, no matter how hard they try.
The power of fear will rear its ugly head once more, be it a day, a week, a month or a year.
The fire has been lit and it will soar.

Brings back the best of memories.

imageHow I miss, walking hand in hand along the sea front, just chilling listening to music and being content in each other’s company.

I know he calls it, “Gods waiting room” but there is something magical about this sea side town.
It’s not just the town but the people in it and the memories it holds.

Your greatest weapon…..

imageYour greatest weapon against stress and negativity is your ability to choose one thought over another. Happiness escapes from those who refuse to see the good in what they have.

When life gives you every reason to be negative, think positive. Smile, not because life has been easy, perfect, or exactly as you had anticipated, but because you choose to be happy and thankful for all the good things you do have and all the problems you know you don’t have.
Stop discrediting yourself for everything you aren’t, and start giving yourself credit for everything you ARE.

We have to learn to be our own best friends, because sometimes we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.

To be loved ❤️

imageIt’s been a while since a last blogged, sorry about that.
Life got taken over and I had no control.
One minute I was pottering around at home and the next thing I knew, I woke up in hospital nearly a week later, with my mum and dad holding my hand at my bedside.

It’s so funny how one minute I was in certain place, the next somewhere different and I have lost days.
It’s a strange feeling to say the least.

All I can say is Thank you to the people in my life that pulled together in my hours of need, from baby sitting my wonderful daughter, to looking after my puppy and spoiling them both rotten. To all my friends, packing up my house ready for my life changing move.
That must have been so hard for them, not knowing if they were packing up for a move or if they were packing up my belongings incase I didn’t pull through.
Guys I really can not thank you enough, you all are truly inspirational and wonderful friends.

The best thing about this whole situation was seeing my daughter and pups faces when I arrived home yesterday.
No sure which one wanted more cuddles.
It sure was a mad dash to see who could get to me the fastest.
Very very cute and heart warming.
That feeling of being loved is overwhelming and such a great feeling.
I guess it takes a grave situation to see how very lucky I am.
And even though I feel like I have been pulled through a hedge backwards, I really couldn’t feel more loved than I do right now.

I have forgotten how nice it feels, the strange thing is it’s always been there but I guess we all wear shutters to the delights of every day feelings.
We are all so blessed everyday, we just need to take a minute to look around, open our hearts and let ourselves feel it.

Right now I feel very lucky to feel air in my lungs, sun on my skin and love in my heart.

No matter what life throws at you, the knowing that you are never alone is over powering and it gives me a reason to keep fighting.
Life is way to short, I’ve learnt this lesson the hard way over the last few years.
But some moments which turn into memories makes life beautiful and breathtaking.