Just live

Life will likely get a little complicated, and bring unexpected hurdles and changes. But that’s okay. Sometimes you have to stumble and feel weak for a little while to realize how strong you really are.
We all do lots of things in life some we wish we could take back. Some we wish we could relive a thousand times. All of these things, positive and negative, have taught us important lessons and have collectively made us into the person we are today.
If we were to reverse or adjust any of them, we wouldn’t be who we are.. we would be somebody else. So just live, make mistakes, make memories, and take chances. Never second guess who you are or where you’ve been.

A little love and laughter.

imageEvery moment of your life, including this one right now, is a fresh start. If you have the courage to admit when you’re scared, the ability to laugh even as you cry, the nerve to speak up even if your voice is shaking, the confidence to ask for help when you need it, and the wisdom to take it when it’s offered, then you have everything you need to get yourself to a better place.
Remember, life will never be perfect, no matter how hard you try. Even if you pour your heart and soul into it, you will never achieve a state of absolute perfection. There will always be moments of uncertainty.. there will always be days where nothing goes right. But as time rolls on.. you will learn that even the most imperfect situations can be made better with a little love and laughter.

Beyond your safety

imageYou only get one life to pursue the dreams that make you come alive. It is better to be failing and learning at doing something you love, rather than succeeding at doing something you hate.
Take chances on behalf of what you believe in. Fail until you succeed.
Make sacrifices and step out beyond the safety of your comfort zone over and over again.
Face your fears with courage and passion. Keep your word and hold true to your vision until it comes to life.

As you look back on your life, you will often realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected from something good, you were in fact being redirected to something better. You can’t control everything. Sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out. Let go a little and just let life happen. Because sometimes the things you can’t change, end up changing you and helping you grow.

Rockslides

imageYou are more than what you are going through. You may want the hero’s journey to be an easy climb, but it never is.
The rock slides in your life are there for a reason. They create the stepping-stones that guide you deeper into your own heart.
One of the great secrets to being happy and successful is accepting where you are in life and making the most of it. You won’t always know where you are going, but as long as you keep moving forward the journey has to be rewarding. Right????
One step at a time, one foot in front of the other.
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes in the middle of nowhere you find yourself.
I hope this is the case, I really do.

Other side of fear.

imageTrust that little voice inside your head that says, “What if…” and then go and do it..
You would be surprised how often “what if” works.
And no, you’re not obligated to win every time. You’re obligated to keep trying.. to do the best you can do every day.. to be better than you were yesterday.
Everything you want is on the other side of fear.
Don’t ever hesitate to give yourself a chance to be everything you are capable of being. It’s better to cross the line, than to just stare at that line for the rest of your life and always wonder.
And remember, courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid.. courage means you don’t let your fear stop you.

“It’s so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.”

imageI have been putting off this blog post and still in two minds in even writing it.
I guess if I put it all down then I have to accept it.

This week has been one of the hardest ever. It is way up there on the list of devastation, heart-break and unspeakable pain.
Those who are close to me know that my favourite cousin has been fighting brain cancer.
This week she lost her fight 😢
I have no words to express the heart ache we all feel.

She was one of the most beautiful incredible soul I have ever met, she wasn’t just my cousin but one of my dearest closest friend.
She was an inspiration to me through my whole life.
I use to just look at her when I was a little girl, I wanted to be just like her.
She had this beautiful energy about her, her smile would light up a room and no matter how sad you felt, that smile would make you smile.
Her laugh was contagious, it would fill the room . Her energy was electric.
She put everyone before her self and all her younger cousins would stand in awe of her.
She was our protected, our leader, our friend.

I have so many happy memories of her, but most of all her kindness shines through them all.

A good few years ago when I ran away from my ex husband I was in one of the lowest patches in my life and I couldn’t stand the thought of life.
No one knew where I was but she tracked me down and came with the biggest brightest bunch of flowers I have ever seen.
She sat and held me from days while I cried, I slept, I cried more. All the time she held onto me like she wouldn’t let me go and she listened. She truly listened. I owe her my life at that point in time.
It wasn’t that I cried for him, I cried for the changes I had to make, I cried for the misery I had lived for all those years, I cried for the intercourse he had forced on me for way to many years, I cried for the cuts and bruises, the beatings he had inflicted on me.
I cried for the worthlessness I felt and the weakness he had drilled into me.
Those few days which some were in silence were distressing to say the least but her smile, her kindness, her love pulled me through.
She was an angel in life and now she will light up the night sky and shine down on us as she has always done.
I really don’t see many people as perfect but her soul, heart, mind and beauty has to be in my top three of perfection.
I really mean that. She was a total inspiration in life and in death she will always be.
If any one deserves those angel wings it’s her.
The thought of life without her is too much to bare right now but I have to find strength in knowing she lives on in her children, her legacy.

So as we face the fourth death this year please give a thought for all the loved ones she has left behind and help us find the strength to not break.
Hopefully we can find peace in knowing that she is with my sister again. I’m sure they are ripping up the sky with their love for life.

Pulling the power back

imageLife is about dealing with the question marks and making the best of them without any guarantees for what’s going to happen next. Nobody on Earth knows how things will turn out for you, which is why you have to press forward every day on the heels of your intuition and passion.
If you give your all, sometimes amazing things can happen, but they’ll rarely be precisely what you had expected.
You have an immeasurable power within yourself to make positive changes in your life. When something is troubling you, don’t ignore it.. make a commitment to change it. Don’t sit around in awe of how unhappy you are and at how unfairly life is treating you. Instead, write it out, cry it out, shout it out and then try to change it, you’ll be amazed at how swiftly and effectively you can do something to lift yourself from falling into the darkest hole, you can talk yourself out of that low moment, the crippling pain what has hold of you and you can find those tiny stepping-stones that will help lead the way to a healthier more positive line of thought. (Trust me it’s far, far from easy, but with determination you can begin to see a flicker of a light.)

When the world feels like it’s crumbling down around you, that’s a valuable signal. It’s your heart’s way of telling you that the darkness is creeping in on you. You need to hold on tight and fight with all you might to hold on and to believe in yourself.
It won’t be easy and it won’t always work. But when it does the knowing that you pulled yourself back is a pretty incredible feeling.

Personally there are emotionally, feelings that no matter how hard I try, no matter how high I build the walls around my heart, that sadness, that devastation, that darkness wins hands down every time and even when I allow myself to admit I can’t change what my heart and soul wants, needs and loves, I have to focus on ways just to keep holding on so the pain doesn’t consume me.
I guess that’s why I try so hard to see the light, the positive in other areas of my life. At least I have some control.
In doing so I stay grounded and try to put into action the positives in life. I’m pulling the power back and somehow living on through the darkness. I guess this way I’m kinda winning.

In a blink of an eye

imageIn every life there are challenges, and in every challenge there are great doses of life to be lived. Whether you judge a challenge to be a problem or an opportunity says more about you than about the challenge itself. The way you choose to see the world is the way your world will be. This is what gives life its magic.. it’s a continuous, dynamic phenomenon that becomes exactly what you choose to make it.
Do something extraordinary. Accept life’s opportunities. Realize that if you never step up to a challenge that’s a bit over your head, you’ll never know how tall you truly are.
Rise to each challenge and continue adding value to the ever-growing possibilities that await your brilliance.
Do not wish your moments away… realise how rich you are in it.
It stands to reason that if you learn to live well you will eventually pass on well too, in complete peace.
The skills are the same. Be brave, and thankful for all the opportunities you have. Make your time count. Right now you are creating history.. your legacy. Don’t let it slip by without being aware of it.
Life works in a strange way.. You want something and you work and wait and work and wait, and feel like it’s taking forever to come.
Then it happens and it’s over and all you want to do is relive all the great memories you made along the way.
Happiness is the journey. Open your eyes. Don’t miss it.

Notice once again

imageAs the days are drawing in I can’t help but notice the beauty of the changing seasons.
Colour is every where, the trees are a light with the flames of Autumn, change is in the air as the breeze helps the crisp leaves dance as they fall.
There really is something magical about the way they dance and spin to the ground.
Somehow it just calms me and opens my soul to the delights of living.
As I feel my temperature drop, I can’t help but just sit a little while longer and take in the calmness of nature, the joy of my puppy and my little girl with her glowing cheeks, chasing the multi coloured blanket of fire, that spirals around their ankles.
With all the misery that’s in our world, how can something so simply delightful be over looked.
With the warm summer days far from mind and
my favourite season waiting just out of reach, I find an inner peace knowing that no matter how ugly the world is right now, if you just stop for a moment, breath and look around you, you will see that not everything is ugly with this world, you just need to pause and notice once more that the magic of life is all around us, dancing, floating, shimmering. We just need to once again notice.