Flashback Friday

It’s Friday, whoop, whoop
Time to reflect
So without further ado, I give you……
Our hearts are drunk with beauty, our eyes could not see.


I read something today, which made me think about beauty and image.

If Barbie was an actual woman, she would be 5’9” tall, have a 39” bust, an 18” waist, 33” hips and a size 3 shoe. Her head would be the same circumference as her waist, meaning she’d have room for only half a liver and a few inches of intestines. The result: chronic diarrhea and death. Also, she would not be able to menstruate. If Barbie was a real woman, she’d have to walk on all fours due to her proportions, her feet are so disproportionately small, her chest would pull her forward onto her toes.
Barbie calls this a “full figure” and likes her weight at 110 lbs. At 5’9” tall and weighing 110 lbs, Barbie would have a BMI of 16.24 and fit the weight criteria for anorexia. Because Barbie’s neck is twice as long as the average human’s, it would be impossible for her to hold up her head.

And yet this is the ‘person’ almost every teenage girl longs to look like.

I have worked in fashion for over ten years now, but I hold very different views to many others in the business.
I don’t follow trends and dress to please me and not others
To feel comfy is the most important in my books.
Why dress like everyone else just to fit in.
Why be a sheep, just to feel like you are on the same level as others around you.
Each person is very different in personality so why not show this through what you wear.
Show the real you.
If people are going to be your friend, shouldn’t it be for who you are and not what you wear.
It should be about inner beauty, that shines from your soul.

As for what makes us beautiful, what is it that people see?
Do they see just your shape, your size, your bottom or your bust, and make their judgement, just on these?

Is it your face, your bone structure ?
Or do they look deeper ?
Your smile, your eyes, the way you play with your hair, or stick out your tongue while thinking.
Is there something more than we first see ?
Is there an energy that draws them to you. Inner beauty maybe?

For me on first glance it’s the eyes that capture my mind and heart.
Looks do not mean anything, your just a shell of bones, muscle, fat and skin.
What lies beneath this shell is what I call beauty.
This is you.

Not the clothes you wear, the make up you plaster on, in an aid to make yourself more beautiful.
Strip away the make up, and you are already more beautiful.
Look deeper at a person to see who they really are, who you really are.
For Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.

Rejoice in the lines that grow with age, as each have a story to tell.
Dress how you want, be as wild or as plain as it suits you.

As my dad tells me often
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart”

So why is it, that some people can not see past skin, body shape or the clothes they wear?
Why do we feel we have to follow trends and fit in ?
Why have we become clones of each other.
Why are we loosing our own personalities to fit in ?

I hope to blog about this at a later date, but it’s food for thought for you.
And please remember, these are just my views. They could be wrong or right.
It’s up to you to find your own and grow as a person through what you believe in.
Never give up your own views or personality to suit others
Be head strong and true to yourself because only you have to live with yourself .

Stay safe and free
Be you .