The smallest pleasures

Sometimes, we put too much passion on the biggest dreams and priorities in life that we fail to love the smallest pleasures from simple things. We search so much for the right choices, for the right paths to walk through, for the right time and for the right reasons.
But life isn’t about searching for the things that can be found. It is about letting the unexpected happen and finding things you never searched for.

Pat on the back.

I look at some people’s life’s and think, “What an absolute inspiration you are”.
I look at what they do day-to-day, I look at what they do to better their life and others and what they’re doing to pursue their dreams and goals.
There can be a lot of negativity on social media at times… Slagging someone off, name calling and little digs at people because they’re not happy with something.
But when you look past the negative and actually see the positive in people… Single parents working a 9 hour shift to go home, cook, clean, bath their child then finally get to bed to do it all again the next day. Those in various careers doing absolutely whatever it takes to get that little bit further to achieve their dreams, someone passing exams, driving test, promotion at work, engagements, marriage, paying off debts or saving like crazy for that long-awaited holiday, etc, etc.

You people deserve a pat on the back because it’s not easy. Not at all but you’re doing what you need to do to be happy or make someone else happy. You won’t see it but you people are who other people look up to. Even those looking up to you don’t know they’re doing it but they are.
Keep doing what you’re doing because it’s people like you the world needs more of.
Make a difference.

The older we get

The older we get the harder life becomes.
We love less, hurt longer, miss more, ache for loved ones lost, worry more about our children and there futures and we keep it all bottled up. Why?
Because we believe everyone else has bigger problems and issues, that are more important than our own.
Just always remember any issue or problem is an issue or a problem halved, so don’t be ashamed to talk and get it off your chest.
We all hurt.
We are all human, and it can only take a blink for us all to wear someone else’s shoes and give them the support that they need.

Speak out, seek help

Sharing my struggles on these pages has helped massively over the years and I hope you all know I will always return that favour with a shoulder were needed. I may not be great at dealing with my own troubles but I have a listening ear.
What I do want to ask is one thing, if you see anyone else struggling with life in general, depression, addiction etc, be there for them where you can.
There is still a lot of stigma attached to what people go through, and by us all supporting and being there for each other it is the only way people will speak out, and seek help.
If you need help yourself, please share your struggles regardless, it is the only way you will be able to move forward and get better. X x

Don’t say it enough

Random thought of the day.

I probably don’t say it enough but thankyou to all my friends, old and new who always believe in me.
It is and has been a very hard struggle, but I am grateful I managed to keep moving forward when all I really wanted/want to do is fall asleep and not wake.
There are also a few really special people in my life, who have always been my inspiration, my shoulder and my support, I owe them my life and I thank you.
So if you go into a place where there seems nothing but darkness please reach out and turn to those who will help pull you through, you never ever have to feel alone.
Keep positive even when it feels impossible and never stop fighting to make your dreams come true.

The biggest lesson

A lot of you know what I’ve been through and what I have overcome. In my blog, I always try to inspire others to take control and work on a better life.
I still struggle, massively, but the biggest lesson is that no one can make anyone else happy, they can help but it’s mostly it’s you. It is not their responsibility. It’s completely an inside job.
The moment that clicks in you, you’ll start making the small steps to change. You have to want the change, sadly that’s the hard part. It’s continuing to push forward when you fall down and still keep going and moving on believing you deserve better but that has to come from you.
If you wait for someone else to fill the hole or to “fix you” you’ll be waiting forever, I know this full well .
Start with gratitude for every small thing you take for granted.
The fact you are alive and breathing is an example you can have a fresh start today and that should be looked upon as a positive thing.
Make your time on this planet count not for others but for you!