img_3893I heard the heartbreaking news that one of my childhood friend took his own life.
He was so young and a happy, out going person with a wonderful future in front of him.
I can not judge his decision as I have been in his shoes and fully understand the darkness that he faced, I just wish that I could have seen him, talked to him and given him a hug and a little heartfelt advice.

We all must accept the fact that life is not perfect, that people are not perfect, and that you are not perfect. And that’s okay, because the real world doesn’t reward perfection.
Perfection is bull sh**, no one is perfect, everyone hurts and cries.
So please try to……Smile every chance you get, not because life has been easy, perfect, or exactly as you had anticipated, but because you choose to be happy and grateful for all the good things you do have, and all the problems you know you don’t have or overcome.
Try to understand that you are no alone in your suffering and that there is a tiny glimmer of light at the end of that ever so long dark tunnel.
Know that even though you have lost your one true love, your soul mate, your completion, that you can survive without her/him and you will learn life can go on without them, just think of the good times when the darkness rolls in and think to yourself how lucky you were to find and to have that.
That’s how I get through the day, and if I can do it, so can you.
It doesn’t mean I’m fixed because I’m far from, it means I choose to live and hopefully in time that light will glimmer through.



imageI personally believe, one of the hardest challenges we face in life is to simply live in our own skin…to just be right here, right now, regardless of where we are. Too often we needlessly distract ourselves with anything and everything…food, shopping, television, tabloid news, online social networks, video games, cell phones, iPods, etc… basically anything to keep us from being fully present in the current moment.
We use compulsive work, compulsive exercise, ect, ect, to escape from ourselves and the realities of living.
In fact, many of us will go to great lengths to avoid the feeling of being alone in an undistracted environment.
So we succumb to hanging-out with just about anybody to avoid the feeling of solitude, as being alone means dealing with our true feelings…fear, anxiety, happiness, anger, joy, resentment, disappointment, anticipation, sadness, excitement, despair, and so on and so forth.
It doesn’t really matter if our feelings are positive or negative…they are overwhelming and exhausting, so we prefer to numb ourselves to them.
The bottom line is that every one of us is an
and what we are addicted to is avoiding ourselves.
Acknowledging this addiction is the first step to healing it.
Try noticing with curiosity, and without judgement, all of the ways in which you avoid being in your own skin, right here, right now, in this present moment we call life.
We just might learn a thing or to.

The desire

imageThe desire for constant happiness only makes us miserable. Because nothing in life is constant. There is neither absolute happiness nor absolute sadness. There are only the changes in our moods that swing between these two extremes.
At any given moment we’re comparing how we feel to how we felt at another time.. comparing one level of our contentment to another. In this way, those of us who have felt great sadness are best able to feel heightened feelings of happiness after we emotionally heal.

We must know misery to identify times of elation.

The key on a daily basis, nevertheless, is to live your life in full. Experience the highs and the lows, the positives and negatives, and all the moods present in between.
Don’t focus on simply being happy.
Focus on living a well-seasoned life. Focus on achieving completeness. Yes, happiness is part of this completeness, but so is sadness, difficulty, frustration, and failure.
And overcoming these latter points supports your personal growth far more than constant happiness.